1/31/09
On relationships...
I think that relationships in high school have become way too serious. Why are people trying to hook up in high school and stay together forever? As teenagers we are trying to develop a sense of who we are as individuals. Being close to another person will affect who you are based on who they want you to be. They will mold your personality to the form they desire. I think friendship is the best way to go. It allows you to be a unique individual but you also get to have similar bonds like those of real relationships. A few relationships will help prepare you for more serious ones in the future but you shouldn't expect to be together for life. And the way I see it, the longer you delay being together, the longer you will be together when you have real time for eachother. That's just a few of my views. Feel free to comment/argue.
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i'm sorry, but i don't agree with what your saying at all. for some people that aren't in serious relationships it could seem like that but for those who are they wouldn't (or at least i don't) see your way at all.
ReplyDeletejust because your dating some one does not necessarily affect who you are, and if it does then so does just being friends with that person or any people in general. you say that we will mold to the way they want us to be, but people who are like that will also do the same thing with friends. humans in general will try to mold to those around us because we have a desire to belong, we are social animals wether we like it or not.
also what you say about high school relationships being too serious, not so very long about humans were getting married at the age of 13! if that were still the case we'd have been married off in middle school.
i don't think true love has an age. you can fall in love with some one at 14 or 75, it doesn't matter, love is blind they say, to age and everything else.
[btw i don't know were i would say this so, i really like your picture, kakashi rules!]
I have to agree on some of the aspects of your thoughts and disagree with others. Sometimes people do get to serious too fast and that is when things start to hit rock bottom, but it doesn't matter how old you are when you know that the love you share with another is true. It might seem impossible because when adults look at it we are too young we are too naive to understand what love really is, but they have no right to judge us because they don't know how we feel.
ReplyDeleteHowever I do agree that being with someone can affect you and mold you, but doesn't everything around you do the same. Without experiences the good ones and the bad how will we ever lean and grow?? Making mistakes is a part of life. Just like being in relationships. They can help you see things in completely different ways. Thinking of others when making decisions can help you learn valuable life skills. Friends are the best but they do influence you as well.
Everybody influnces everybody else. That's just the way it is. If you have contact with anybody, even one modicum of social personality, then you're at risk of being changed. Some people don't let it change them; those are the ones we call front-runners, trend setters, and everything else that means Leader.
ReplyDeleteBut those pliable enough to noticeably change in the presence of friends? They deserve it obviously, for their own persona was inadequate to begin with.
I agree in general with the spirit of what you've said, but keep in mind that even though Friends don't change you as much as a serious relationship does, they still do.
An example. Your life partner kills themselves. What do you do?
Chances are, it's awfully close to what you'd do if your Best Friend comitted suicide.
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i do agree with most of your points and aspects. because it is tru at times that in high school some do rush into things, i mean possibly, if they would have taken things slower would they not have run into the problems that arise before them now...but maybe , ya know, some need that small glimmer of hope to know that even if they fail at everything else they at least have someone to hold on to forever at the end of the day, i know that i would have completely drowned (hypothetically of course lol) if i didnt have my guy at the end of the day to turn to and to trust and speak with of any small possibilities of a future, its really wat keeps me going..but overall i think the just of what you are saying is right.
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